Love In Action Schools

If you’ve got a hot date coming up in the next couple of weeks, you’ve probably already started to panic about what you’re going to wear, as the snowy and icy cold conditions leave you a bit limited.

Unless your extremely brave (or are planning on necking a couple of sambucas before you head out of the house) the thought of donning a tiny mini dress with a plunging neckline is likely to send a chill through your bones.

You could team a dress with a thick pair of tights and a funky fur coat and still look super hot though. Alternatively, you can’t go wrong with a pair of uber tight skinny jeans, platform heels and a nice little top.

At the end of the day though, no guy is worth getting hypothermia for, and if he doesn’t like what you’re wearing he can jog on!!

So Christmas is coming, and this generally means lots of fab opportunities for singles to mingle, although if you’re anything like me this might also mean lots of fab opportunities to get a tad tipsy.

There’s nothing wrong with enjoying a glass of champers or 10 (especially when it’s free) although this does carry the risk of developing the old beer goggles and snogging a right minger!

Whether you’ve been single for 5 minutes or 5 years though, getting off with the fattest, greasiest gimp in the office is likely to leave you looking veryyyy desperate- so steer clear of the combination of mistletoe and mingers if you value your reputation and your self respect!!

It’s a pretty safe bet to assume that most of us will have experienced a date from hell at some point in our lives, and whilst it can be all too easy to blame yourself and sit crying into a large glass of wine and a large box of chocolates, you really do just have to accept it as ‘one of those things’.

Let’s face it, you’re not going to hit it off with every person you go on a date with and if they present you with the age-old excuse that ‘it’s not you, it’s me’, why not just take their word for it and accept that you really are just too good for them!

NEXT PLEASE!!

When you have a big date coming up, might find yourself thinking about what you’re going to wear in order to make a lasting impression.

Some women wrongly believe that, in order to have their date coming back for more, it’s essential to have everything on show- but this couldn’t be further from the truth!

For men, there’s nothing worse than dating a girl who insists on getting her cleavage AND legs out in some super tight mini dress. As well as looking really cheap and tacky, no man wants to find themselves having to compete for attention with every other guy in the bar/ restaurant/ cinema.

A nice top and pencil skirt is always a winner- sexy yet sophisticated- and will make your guy the envy of others for miles around- for all of the right reasons!!!

First dates are always pretty nerve wracking experiences, although you shouldn’t let these nerves cloud your judgement and make you do or say something which you’ll later regret and which will leave you looking at a life of singledom for a long time to come.

One of the most common mistakes which many people make when on a first date is drinking too much. Whilst a drink can help to steady your nerves, it’s all too easy to start knocking back the cocktails and find yourself in all manner of embarrassing situations.

Another big no-no is going back home with your date for a ‘coffee’. This is pretty much a sure-fire way of seeing yourself used and abused- and let’s face it, the cheap and easy look is never a good one!!

First dates should be fun and shouldn’t leave you cringing with shame for months to come.

When you meet someone in a club and you really hit it off with them, you get quite a buzz that lasts all night. Unfortunately, the next day, amid the hangover from hell, you can’t always remember that clearly what they looked like and what your conversation with them dwelt on. That’s no reason not to get in touch though.

If you got a number then it’s always worth meeting up again, because if there was something about them that caught your eye on the night, then it may well do so again. By sacking the whole thing off you could be making a terrible waste.

Dates themselves can be fun, so send a little text to try and get the ball rolling.

If there’s one thing that always irks me on a second or third date, it’s when the person I’m with keeps relaying stories they have already told me. It’s happened to me on a couple of occasions lately when I’ve met up with someone, had a good time and arranged a second date, only for the very same conversations to take place.

It’s one thing to talk about something you are interested in more than other things, but it’s another thing entirely to actually repeat stories, jokes and anecdotes. The impression it gives is rarely a good one. It either suggests that you go on so many dates you can’t remember who you’ve told what or it suggests you don’t really have a lot to talk about.

My advice is to pay attention, not just to what your date is talking about, but to what you’re talking about yourself. This way you might avoid suffering awkward situations.

Very often the biggest question on singleton’s minds is to how to meet new people. Many relationship experts advise that people need to work on themselves first and that this will help them to meet others they can connect with. This is a very stereotypical piece of advice but they say it is proven to work.
Their reasoning behind this, is if a person is doing things in life that make them happy, they have good relationships with family and friends and have good career prospects, they are more likely to meet someone with similar qualities and with the same outlook on life.

Most people know the story of Jane Austin’s Emma; the woman who liked to see herself as a match maker, but Janis Spindel who is a 21st century match makers works very differently from that in Austins 18th century novel.
Spindel offers her match making services to clients such as celebrities and wall street type professionals. She has very aggressive techniques such giving her clients a full make over and hunting for women in New York’s fifth glamorous 5th avenue stores. Although her techniques are unconventional she has a high success rate, claiming that 90% of her clients are now married.

If you want Spindel’s services be prepared to spend at least $16,500.

Speed taking can seem like a very strange way of dating but for many it is an ideal way to date people. It generally works with a couple sitting at a table and chatting for 4 minutes to find out more about each other. After that time a bell will ring, the women stay at the table while the men move to the next table. There is normally a twenty minute break at half time but after the dating is over the company which organised the speed dating will take your notes and only put you in contact with others that also wanted to get in contact with you. It s a great way to meet people you want to again as well as avoiding those that you don’t.

It’s also a great way for professionals with busy lives, or those who tend to always socialise with the same group of friends to meet other people.